Welcome!

Over the last decade, we have seen a spike in either/or thinking that is forcing us apart, as social communities, as free and functioning nation states, as a Jewish people, and as humans.

The series will convene on Zoom, Wednesday evenings from 7:30 – 9:30pm ET on April 23, May 7, May 14, and May 28.

What a way to honor the Omer.

The first and last sessions will feature Rabbi Shoshana Gelfand (WGF/DS Alum), author, BBC radio broadcaster and philanthropic advisor. For more than a decade, she has been part of the Pears Foundation team in London, where she currently serves as Director of Leadership and Learning. She is also Vice-Chair of the International Jewish Committee on Interreligious Consultations (IJCIC), which liaises on behalf of the global Jewish community to the Vatican and World Council of Churches, and co-author of Polarities in Jewish Tradition. The middle two sessions will be taught by Professor Wendy K Smith whose book — “Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems” — we will study as part of our work. Wendy Smith earned her Ph.D. in organizational behavior at Harvard Business School, and is currently a professor of management at the Alfred Lerner College of Business & Economics and Co-director of the Women’s Leadership Initiative at the University of Delaware, where she teaches leadership, organizational behavior and business ethics.

Roster of Participants

Bio Book of Participants

Please bookmark this “landing page” as we will post updates, agendas, zoom links, and other information here, with the most recent information at the top and a running record of all past meetings, notices, recordings, resources, faculty bios, assignments, etc, down below for your reference.

Pre-Work and Course Reading

Please purchase and read Wendy K Smith’s book or ebook “Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems. Before each session, we will share which chapters will be the focus of our conversation.

Session One (April 23) with Rabbi Shoshana Gelfand

“Naming, Surfacing, and Beginning to Navigate Polarities (Interdependent Opposites)”

(Wednesday April 23rd, 2025, 7:30-9:30pm)

Homework for Session 1:

Consider:

1) What kinds of problems are you good at solving?

2) Have you ever encountered challenges in your life (family, work, community leadership, etc.) that are chronic and unsolvable? If so, can you identify the fundamental conflict that keeps this chronic issue from being resolved?

This is simply a thought exercise to get your wheels spinning before our first session, so don’t overthink it. Just see what emerges as you consider the idea of solvable and unsolvable problems. “

Session Goals:

·         To define the phenomenon of polarities and Both/And Thinking

·         To introduce Both/And Thinking first with individual leadership polarities (toward personal growth), and then move to organizational polarities (toward systemic change)

·         To model the dynamics of polarities and Both/And Thinking

·         To surface and name some of the hottest polarities we face in the Jewish communal world today.

Session Outcomes (Participants will be able to/PWBAT):

·         Recognize polarities and identify value neutral poles

·         Analyze some principles of polarities (i.e. “diagonals” and increased tolerance for the downside of poles we prefer)

Please print the following handouts in advance of session one:

Handout 1- Seeing Polarities

Handout 2- List of Leadership and Organizational Polarities

Handout 3- Blank Polarity Map

In-Class Resources:

Session One Slides

Session One Recording

Session Two (May 7) with Dr. Wendy Smith

From Either/Or to Both/And: Building Tools to Navigate Paradox

(Wednesday May 7th, 2025, 7:30-9:30pmET)

Homework for Session 2:

·         Polarity Spotting:  Identify examples of paradoxes/polarities (interdependent opposites, we’ll be using those terms interchangeably) that surface in your work/life; and in the world.

·         Your Dilemma:  Consider, and write down, a dilemma that you are experiencing in your work, your volunteer work or in your life. This could be a persistent tension that continually resurfaces or a recent tension that you have experienced. We will work together to workshop this tension.

·         Background Reading: Read the Introduction and Chapter 1 of Both/And Thinking.

PWBAT

  • Identify the three vicious cycles get us caught in either/or thinking.
  • Explore examples of moving from either/or to both/and.
  • Apply the ABCD Paradox System to apply both/and thinking to individual questions.

In-Class Resources:

Session Two Slides

Session Two In-Class Handout

Session Two Recording

 

Session Three (May 14) with Dr. Wendy Smith

Going Live in Real Time: Consulting on a Wexner Heritage Alum Both/And Thinking Case Study”

(Wednesday May 14th, 2025, 7:30-9:30pm)

Homework for Session 3:

·         Listen for the either/or – Identify places where you hear either/or. How might the either/or limit the possibilities.

·         Try out some of the strategies to apply both/and to your dilemmas. Where does this help? Where is it hard? Where do you get stuck?

PWBAT 

·         Identify emotional/psychological obstacles that prevent us from engaging in both/and thinking.

·         Develop skills to navigate emotional challenges.

·         Build strategies for more effective dialogue amid contradictory perspectives.

In-Class Resources:

Session Three Slides

Session Three Recording

Session Four (May 28) with Rabbi Shoshana Gelfand

“Mapping Our Polarity Challenges, Moving Toward a Plan for Intervention”

(Wednesday May 28th, 2025, 7:30-9:30pm)

Homework for Session 4:

  • In pairs or individually, draw up a polarity map for an organizational polarity that is live, relevant, and troubling in your Jewish leadership. Annotate where you get stuck – highlight areas that are harder to articulate and identify. Bring your maps to the next session when they will be workshopped with Rabbi Gelfand.

Session Goals:

To introduce the robust tools of “action steps” and “early warning signs” to the process of polarity mapping.

To facilitate peer coaching about action steps and early warning signs.

To address the challenge of how you get unstuck when not all people in a system cooperate in the process.

To ready participants toward engaging in interventions.

PWBAT: 

Identify who their allies are/could be.

Identify who is part of their polarity system and who may not want to hear about it.

To talk about polarities and both/and thinking without jargon or conceptual diagrams.

To choose one polarity challenge to apply their leadership to and commit to beginning a process towards making progress on it over the next six months.

In-Class Resources:

Class Four Slides

Class Four Recording